Tuesday, September 11, 2007

easier said than done

Dear heart,

i thought i accepted this whole thing. then he left and i suddenly became emotionally unstable yet again. i hate that crap. why can't i stop being such a damn girl all the time?

i went with him to metro today. he didn't even mean to but sometimes he smiles and it kills me. i forgot what he was smiling about but i had to look away because it just made me so f*cking sad. i couldn't stand it. i just thought about how i first came to love him. i didn't realize it at the time and i just figured i was crazy. i thought the vince thing was giving me nutty ideas. but that almost all-nighter we pulled in his car talking about god-knows-what made me completely confused. it made me want to see him more and more because it just felt so right to be around this stranger.

i can't cry at work. it just looks so unprofessional and psychotic. but right when his hand waved goodbye to me for the last time- it just hit me. this was the end and he was leaving- not only work but me. i never really thought that was possible. i guess i just always imagined him coming up with some heroic gesture so we could live happily ever after like we were supposed to.

i try to tell myself over and over again that i only love him as a friend now and that i have moved on. then i prove myself wrong and i realize i haven't moved at all. rather i'm just standing there looking pathetic and missing him even more. it hurts and there's a lump in my throat. i wish i knew he shared this pain because maybe that would ease it somehow. but he just seems so- like he doesn't even care about me anymore. like this whole thing doesn't even bother him. he's gonna miss me, right? am i that forgetable? am i that easy to walk away from? it doesn't even hurt him just a little? damn! tears at work again! i'm so OVER this crying at my desk bullsh*t! i'm recycling a rough paper napkin with a phone number written on it.

i am just so very devestated and i really have no one to talk to about it. i wish i could share my sorrows with someone. antoinette would just tell me to get over it. sometimes i'd talk about troy and she'd just throw up her hands in defeat like "you guys broke up!" i wouldn't be able to discuss with anthony, either. he just gets all weird about me emotional at all.

when i hugged him, i wanted to be eevie from that 90's show "out of this world" so i could stop time and i was allowed to hug him as long as i want. but i was no half alien girl. i was just me and i had to let go or i was going to give away how much i really didn't want him to go at all. i just feel so lost right now. i thought being completely busy would take my mind away from all this but when i have two seconds to myself, my thoughts are drawn back to him. it's stupid- i KNOW! it's like that divine lyric "i try to get you out of my head but the more that i try, you're back in my mind again."

possible poem ideas:
i miss him like a flower under a blanket of snow would miss the sun.
i want him like a dried up river bank longs for the rain.

break ups suck in general but losing someone you love can really shake things up. it's just so devestating. boys come and go but love really doesn't come knock on my door very often. and it couldn't even stay long. what's wrong with me? why do i ruin everything? i told troy once to never give up on me. in a way, he has.

i still remember this one time i started crying because i remembered how much michael hurt me and how lucky i was to have troy. (i hid under my desk so no one would pass by and see me cry. it was kind of silly but it worked.) i remember being cradled in his arms and i knew i wanted to stay there forever. it feels so scary to be without him. i know its possible to live without him but i don't even want to imagine it. he was the one i told all my problems to. i still want to do that and i hope he doesn't just abandon me completely. the only problem is that who do i talk to about him? not to him, obviously. i guess it will have to be you. you will return to being my only comfort. maybe that's why i haven't written in you the whole time i was with troy. because i never needed to. i shared everything with him. even when i was frustrated with him- i'd talk to him about it.

not only did i lose a boyfriend, a lover, a companion- i lost my other half, my best friend. there's this song called shirts and gloves where it says "it seems like nothings happened until i've shared them with you." that was written for troy and they didn't even know it.

i wish i was over this but it actually is easier said than done.

this heart of mine was broken at 4:36:00 PM
0 people tried to mend this shattered heart

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    x keeps his promises
    x no smoking
    x no drinking
    x drinks with me
    x can drive
    x 21 and over
    x has a job
    x attractive or endearingly cute
    x makes me laugh
    x i can make him laugh
    x has a car
    x tough on the outside, a softy when it comes to me
    x no hardcore drugs
    x gets along with my friends
    x can get jealous
    x trusts me to let me go out with guy friends
    x honest, even when it hurts
    x can go shopping with me and tells me what he likes on me
    x kisses nice
    x does little sweet things
    x calls all the time
    x has a cell phone
    x smells good- either cologne sexy or has a natural comforting smell which i judge for myself
    x parents love me
    x friends love me
    x likes seafood and asian food
    x cooks for me
    x let's me be in control
    x is in control
    x not abusive
    x i can joke with
    x pokes fun at me and vice versa
    x loves my weirdness
    x wears beach clothing or GQ clothes or skater clothes
    x respect privacy
    x my best friend
    x smart
    x goes to school
    x my parents like him
    x doesn't have a significant ex who can come back
    x no girlfriend
    x can act mature but also playful with me
    x i can play-fight with like wrestling
    x likes falling asleep on the phone
    x likes my music
    x shy but opens up to me
    x will never cheat
    x won't drive me to cheat
    x flirts with me
    x can say im beautiful even when i dont have make-up on
    x let's me dress him or style his hair
    x goes to church with me
    x loves to kiss me, hold me, touch me
    x publicly displays his affection
    x sings even when he can't
    x chooses me over his friends
    x would do anything for me
    x likes coffee
    x wears shorts sometimes
    x not a workaholic
    x puts himself in my place when we fight
    x isn't all talk but no action
    x holds me when we sleep
    x can fart in front of me
    x can fart in front of him
    x joins me when im weird
    x listens to my problems, even when they are about him


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    x wears glasses
    x watches chick flicks or willing to watch foreign films
    x lives within a 20 minute radius of my house
    x takes me shopping
    x likes to read
    x good in bed
    x goes to my school
    x new in bed
    x loves coffee the way i make it
    x boxers!
    x sings in the shower
    x picks flowers for me
    x british, australian, french accents
    x watches smallville or dawsons creek
    x financially secure (RICH)
    x has no girl pals but me
    x rarely hangs with the boys and takes me when he does
    x a fireman
    x drives a truck
    x wears flip flops
    x half white? hehe

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